to tolerate or not to tolerate? that is the question!
Right now I am listening to John Mayer's "Why did you Mess with Forever". I started to wonder... what is it that makes or breaks a relationship? I will probably get a billion and one answers to this one. So I asked a couple of my friends.
Cheating - seems to me that one can forgive the cheater but it is hard to forget the act, or maybe there's a third party and you would rather be with them...
Abuse - it may be physical, verbal or mental. Personally I would not put up with this and anyone who would is stupid...
Distance - so maybe it is true that long-distance relationships hardly ever works...
So, to answer my question... the only difference between couples is their capacity for tolerance. A quick google search defines tolerance as "forbearance in judging of the acts or opinions of others". Synonymous to words such as broadmindedness, acceptance, lenience, forbearance, etc.
Each person possesses a different level of tolerance. Just like athletes have a higher threshold for pain than couch potatoes. I have friends who belong to completely opposite sides of the spectrum when it comes to how they deal with their relationships. When you think about it, the variation lies on how one handles the situation but the circumstances are similar.
People change and their tolerance for events and things that happen to them change to. As you grow older - operative word here is wiser, you become more secure and entrenched with what you believe is good for you. You have an invisible "tolerance list" of what you can and cannot put up with and along with that is the reason behind it. The different experiences that you go through help you build that list and it keeps growing everyday.
If you cheated before then you can forgive your boyfriend for cheating on you. If you can no longer handle being punched and hit by your boyfriend, then you break up with him. If you feel insecure with the long-distance relationship, you end it.
It's all about how you can tolerate everything that comes your way. If you don't let it get to you, it won't. One should be open to the ideas of others and how others accept and deal with things. What you can and cannot accept will definitely make or break you relationship.
If you reach the end of that so called tolerance level, sit down, close your eyes and breath. It helps.
Cheating - seems to me that one can forgive the cheater but it is hard to forget the act, or maybe there's a third party and you would rather be with them...
Abuse - it may be physical, verbal or mental. Personally I would not put up with this and anyone who would is stupid...
Distance - so maybe it is true that long-distance relationships hardly ever works...
So, to answer my question... the only difference between couples is their capacity for tolerance. A quick google search defines tolerance as "forbearance in judging of the acts or opinions of others". Synonymous to words such as broadmindedness, acceptance, lenience, forbearance, etc.
Each person possesses a different level of tolerance. Just like athletes have a higher threshold for pain than couch potatoes. I have friends who belong to completely opposite sides of the spectrum when it comes to how they deal with their relationships. When you think about it, the variation lies on how one handles the situation but the circumstances are similar.
People change and their tolerance for events and things that happen to them change to. As you grow older - operative word here is wiser, you become more secure and entrenched with what you believe is good for you. You have an invisible "tolerance list" of what you can and cannot put up with and along with that is the reason behind it. The different experiences that you go through help you build that list and it keeps growing everyday.
If you cheated before then you can forgive your boyfriend for cheating on you. If you can no longer handle being punched and hit by your boyfriend, then you break up with him. If you feel insecure with the long-distance relationship, you end it.
It's all about how you can tolerate everything that comes your way. If you don't let it get to you, it won't. One should be open to the ideas of others and how others accept and deal with things. What you can and cannot accept will definitely make or break you relationship.
If you reach the end of that so called tolerance level, sit down, close your eyes and breath. It helps.
posted by Anma @ 2:21 PM
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